Tips for Mastering Small Talk in English
- douglas540
- Dec 17, 2023
- 2 min read
The purpose of small talk
For business or social reasons, small talk is a central part of language. It allows people to get to know each other more deeply, to begin friendships, and to get a sense if you can trust someone. It might even lead to a future spouse in some cases! Best of all, small talk is free, authentic language practice in the real world. The more you practice, the more natural it will become. But some have trouble starting small talk. If you are shy or introverted (especially in English), the tips in this article are for you!
1. Reduce anxiety
Some people might become anxious engaging in English small talk. Reduce anxiety by staying positive. Just ask yourself, "What's the worst that can happen?"
2. Decide who you'd like to meet before you go
If possible, find out will be at the event and plan to meet those who you might share something in common. Even if you only know one person, ask them to introduce you to others. A skilled host will know the guests and be able to match compatible guests, making conversation flow easier.
Find out the hobbies and interests of others at the event. This way you will have a conversation topic or an opinion to share.
4. Make a game out of making small talk
Challenge yourself to meet at least five people at the event. Make it a game. This mental shift will reduce anxiety and make conversation fun.
5. Take responsibility for meeting others
Introduce yourself to others first. If you expect others to make the first move, you may find yourself alone most of the event. You owe it to yourself to initiate conversation.
6. Have your small talk questions ready
Keep questions short and simple. Questions could be "How do you know _____?" or "What brought you to this area?" Avoid questions easily answered with a yes or no by asking thoughtful questions, listen carefully, and then follow up with more questions based on their response.
Everyone has a story to tell, including yourself. Start with a brief version of your story (background) and then ask the right questions to get their story.
8. Be yourself
Do not pretent to be someone you are not. You can say some honest self-deprecating things like "My English is not great, but I'd like to get to know you." Such honesty is certain to move the conversation forward.
Conclusion
These tips for mastering small talk are general advice. Although English may be a challenge for you, and although you may be shy, that does not mean you should avoid opportunities for small talk. Be brave, and remember that there are more people like you (non-native English speakers) in the world than native speakers. You do not need to speak perfectly in order to meet wonderful people and make new friends. Try small talk today at the bus stop, on the train, or waiting in line. Who knows where it might lead?
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